Sunday, December 30, 2012

Backed Or Whacked: Ignoring The Little People

backed-whackedEditor?s note:?Ross Rubin?is principal analyst at Reticle Research and blogs at?Techspressive. Each column looks at crowdfunded products that have either met or missed their funding goals. The period leading up to the New Year is often a time of self-reflection. Resolutions often relate to people wanting to create a better version of themselves or at least a thinner version of themselves. Many also want to be more giving. Following through on these challenges often helps if you have support.

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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Mali PM urges military intervention

28/12/2012

Malian Prime Minister Diango Cissoko on Thursday (December 27th) pleaded for African military intervention "as soon as possible" to help his country oust armed groups, including al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb, Le Monde reported.

He was speaking at a press conference after a meeting with Ivorian President Alassane Ouattara, who also chairs the Economic Community of the West African States (ECOWAS).

Cissoko began a regional tour Wednesday in Ouagadougou, where he met with ECOWAS mediator and Burkina Faso President Blaise Compaor?. He will also visit Benin and Senegal.

Last week, the United Nations decided to back the ECOWAS proposal to send 3,300 troops to the region.

The Security Council gave an initial one year authorisation to the African-led International Support Mission in Mali (AFISMA) to use "all necessary measures" to help Malian authorities retake land held by "terrorist, extremist and armed groups".

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Friday, December 28, 2012

Spokesman: Nelson Mandela 'not yet fully recovered'

JOHANNESBURG (Reuters) - Former South African President Nelson Mandela is doing well after being discharged from hospital, although he is still not fully recovered, a government spokesman said on Thursday.

"He is not yet fully recovered, but he has sufficiently moved forward so that he can be discharged," Mac Maharaj told local broadcaster eNCA.

"He is sufficiently well to be home."

The 94-year-old anti-apartheid leader and Nobel Peace Prize laureate was discharged from the hospital on Wednesday, ending a nearly three-week stay during which he was treated for a lung infection and had surgery to remove gallstones.

Mandela, who has been in frail health for several years, is now receiving care at his suburban Johannesburg home.

Mandela has a history of lung problems dating back to when he contracted tuberculosis while in jail as a political prisoner. He spent 27 years in prison, including 18 years on the windswept Robben Island off Cape Town.

The former president was admitted to a Pretoria hospital on December 8 and this was his longest stay in a hospital since he was released from prison in 1990.

Current President Jacob Zuma visited Mandela on Christmas Day and said the former South African leader was doing much better, making progress and in good spirits.

Mandela was also admitted to a hospital in February because of abdominal pain but released the following day after a keyhole examination showed there was nothing seriously wrong with him.

He has spent most of his time since then in another home in Qunu, his ancestral village in the impoverished Eastern Cape province.

(Reporting by David Dolan; editing by Todd Eastham)

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/south-africas-mandela-discharged-hospital-government-020549200.html

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S.Africa suspends Iran imports again in November

JOHANNESBURG (Reuters) - South Africa suspended all imports of crude oil from Iran for a sixth consecutive month in November, data showed on Friday, as Pretoria continued to steer clear of the shipments because of sanctions.

South Africa used to import a quarter of its crude from Iran but has come under Western pressure to cut the shipments as part of sanctions designed to halt Tehran's suspected pursuit of nuclear weapons.

In May, imports from Iran stood at 285,524 tonnes, but since June, Africa's biggest economy has replaced shipments from Iran with crude from other suppliers.

The major supplier in November was Saudi Arabia, with shipments of 672,298 tonnes.

Other crude imports came from Nigeria, Angola, the United Arab Emirates and Ghana, with shipments totalling 1.27 million tonnes.

Although the United States extended South Africa's exemption from financial sanctions earlier this month after the cuts in Iranian imports, Pretoria is still hampered by European Union (EU) sanctions that prevent insurance companies from underwriting Iranian shipments.

The EU has not granted any waivers, even though South Africa has been lobbying Brussels because of the impact of the sanctions on its fuel supplies.

Refiners in South Africa include Shell, BP, Total, Chevron, petrochemicals group Sasol, and Engen, which is majority-owned by Malaysian state oil group Petronas .

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Works and Days ? An Anatomy of a Most Peculiar Institution

A Campus-full of Contradictions

Almost everything about the modern university is a paradox. It has become a sort of industry gone rogue that embraces practices that a Wal-Mart or Halliburton would never get away with. It is exempt from scrutiny in the fashion that the Left ceased talking about renditions or Guantanamo Bay once Barack Obama was elected, or a Code Pink goes after a NRA official in the way it would never disrupt a hearing on Fast and Furious. In other words, the university is one of the great foundations of the Left, and so is immune from the sort of criticism that otherwise is daily leveled against other institutions.

So let?s take a 10-minute stroll through the campus and learn why costs soar even as students are ever more poorly educated.

The Curriculum

A student?s life on campus is a zero-sum game. For each elective like ?The modern comic book,? or ?Chicana feminisms? or ?Queering the text,? students have no time (or desire to) take more difficult and instructive classes on the British Enlightenment or A History of World War I or Classical English Grammar. (Yes, despite the relativist, anti-hierarchical university, concepts really do exist ?like ?more instructive.?) The former are mostly therapeutic classes, entirely deductive, in which the point is not to explore an intellectual topic by presenting the relevant facts and outlining the major controversies, while sharpening students? inductive reasoning and empirical objectivity, as well as improving their English prose style and mastering grammar and syntax in their written work.

The result is perhaps a fourth of the liberal arts courses ? many would judge more like 50% ? would never have been allowed in the curriculum just 40 years ago. They tend to foster the two most regrettable traits in a young mind ? ignorance of the uninformed combined with the arrogance of the zealot. All too often students in these courses become revved up over a particular writ ? solar power, gay marriage, the war on women, multiculturalism ? without the skills to present their views logically and persuasively in response to criticism. Heat, not light, is the objective of these classes.

Why are these courses, then, taught?

For a variety of practical reasons: 1) often the professors are rehashing their doctoral theses or narrow journal articles and are not capable of mastering a wider subject (e.g., teaching a class in ?The Other in Advertising? ?is a lot easier than a systematic history of California); 2) the quality of today?s students is so questionable that the social sciences have stepped up to service the under-qualified, in the sense of providing courses, grades, and graduation possibilities; 3) the university does not see itself as a disinterested nexus of ideas, where for a brief four years students are trained how to think, given a corpus of fact-based knowledge about their nation and world, and expected to develop an aesthetic sense of art, music, and literature. Instead college is intended as a sort of boot camp for the progressive army, where recruits are trained and do not question their commissars.

So the new curriculum in the social sciences and humanities fills a need of sorts, and the result is that today?s graduating English major probably cannot name six Shakespearean plays; the history major cannot distinguish Verdun from Shiloh; the philosophy major has not read Aristotle?s Poetics or Plato?s Laws; and the political science major knows very little of Machiavelli or Tocqueville ? but all of the above do know that the planet is heating up due to capitalist greed, the history of the United States is largely a story of oppression, the UN and the EU offer a superior paradigm to the U.S. Constitution, and there are some scary gun-owning, carbon-fuel burning, heterosexual-marrying nuts outside the campus.

If we ask why vocational and tech schools sprout up around the traditional university campus, it is because they are upfront about their nuts-and-bolts, get-a-job education: no need to worry about ?liberal arts? or ?the humanities? ? especially given that the universities? General Education core is not very general and not very educational any more. Yes, I am worried that the University of Phoenix graduate has not read Dante, but more worried that the CSU Fresno graduate has not either, and the former is far more intellectually honest about that lapse than the latter.

Note here the illiberal nature of allowing highly paid faculty to indulge their curricular fantasies at the expense of indebted students who pay a great deal for a great deal of nothing. Is there a provost or a dean in America that can say to faculty, ?That is not a real course, and so won?t be taught at our real university?? Does the shop foreman let the welder choose his own project?

Source: http://pjmedia.com/victordavishanson/a-most-peculiar-institution/

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Over 17 million tablets and phones opened on Christmas

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Christmas day this year saw record numbers of devices coming online ? over 17 million of them, according to app analytics company Flurry. And that's not counting the ones that stayed offline.

Flurry identifies new devices as "activated" when?one of thousands of tracked apps is launched, and the company claims that this amounts to about 90 percent of all devices ? note that this is different from "activating" your new phone on a wireless carrier.

With so many tablets and smartphones on the market right now, perhaps it's not surprising that numbers should be so high. The iPad Mini, Nexus 10?and Kindle Fire all combine the latest hardware with a gift-friendly price.

By Flurry's measure, 17.4 million iOS and Android devices were activated Christmas day worldwide ? more than any other day in history by a good margin.?December saw about 4 million devices activated every day, which is about twice what December 2011 had, and Christmas day last year had only 6.8 million activations.

Flurry didn't provide a breakdown of how many of those millions were Android and how many were iOS ? and with competition fiercer than ever, it's difficult to speculate (although based on recent reports, it's likely that iOS has a solid?lead).

A second study by Mixpanel found that more than half of Internet traffic on Christmas was from mobile devices (much more than the week before), so clearly those millions of gifted tablets and phones were being put to use. Mixpanel put the traffic breakdown as 44 percent Android and 54 percent iOS, but that's of all the devices Mixpanel?saw, not just the ones opened on Christmas.

More complete numbers (including best-selling devices) will likely be released by retailers and manufacturers in the next few weeks ? perhaps at the Consumer Electronics Show in Las Vegas.

Devin Coldewey is a contributing writer for NBCNews Digital. His personal website is?coldewey.cc.

Source: http://www.nbcnews.com/technology/gadgetbox/over-17-million-tablets-phones-unboxed-christmas-analysts-1C7753892

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Glimpse the new face of job security

The Momentive Performance Materials plant near Albany, N.Y.,

By Kat Aaron Investigative Reporting Workshop

WATERFORD, N.Y. -- Momentive Performance Materials sprawls near the banks of the Hudson River, just outside Albany, N.Y., its silver silos and windowless sheds nestled in the low, rolling hills. Men who work there see deer on the road as they drive their pickups to work.

Inside the plant, the tranquility vanishes. It?s not just that the workers are handling toxic, explosive chemicals. That?s par for the course in silicone manufacturing. Many Momentive employees have been at the company for decades, back when it was part of General Electric. They accept the risks in exchange for a steady, sizable paycheck.

The problem is that the paycheck is neither as steady nor sizable as it used to be.


Apollo Global Management, a private equity firm, bought the former GE Advanced Material (Silicones & Quartz) in 2006 and renamed it Momentive. Two years later, in the middle of a three-year contract, Apollo slashed the wages of some 450 union workers by up to 40 percent. Suddenly, workers found themselves being paid what they had made 10 or 20 years earlier.(GE is a part owner of NBCUniversal, the parent company of NBC News.)

The Momentive workers were standing still, but the world was changing around them. A contract isn?t what it used to be. The men ? and they are mostly men ? at Momentive have what millions of unemployed Americans covet: a job. And not just any job, but a union job in manufacturing, the kind of job likely to get increasingly rare as right to work laws spread. But that job pays less than it did a decade ago, and many Momentive employees say they?re slipping backward. Some are losing their homes. This is job security in 2012, the new face of stability in the American workplace.

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Momentive produces silicones for dozens of familiar brand names. Its customers include Goodyear, Motorola, L?Oreal and The Home Depot. Its silicones are in caulks, gaskets, carpets and bedding. They?re the conditioning ingredient in ?2-in-1? shampoo. When Neil Armstrong took his one giant leap, the sole of his moon boot was made of silicone rubber produced at the Waterford plant.

Workers used to make 700,000 pounds of silicone gum every week at the factory, according to one longtime Momentive worker, who like many others interviewed for this story spoke on condition of anonymity, fearing retribution from the company. Now, he says they make less than 200,000 pounds.

It?s not clear if the overall production has declined or been shifted elsewhere. In addition to its factory in New York, Momentive has factories in Ohio and West Virginia, Japan, Germany and Italy. A finishing plant started up in Chennai, India, in 2010, as did a joint venture in Jiande, China. Another Chinese plant is slated for completion in 2013.

Momentive declined to share production information, but in a statement it said, ?Waterford continues to be an important facility in our North American network and we have recently consolidated our Silicones and Quartz divisional headquarters at this site. It is also critical that we continue to strengthen our global footprint, which will allow us to meet the needs of our geographically diverse customer base.?

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When GE spun off its silicones plant six years ago, the Waterford workers were apprehensive. They had a pretty good thing going, and most weren?t excited about a change. Back then, it wasn?t uncommon for a Momentive worker to take home $100,000 a year ? serious money for seriously skilled labor. ?I make more than some husbands and wives combined,? one man told me. But, he said, ?It?s not a perfume factory down there.? The plant operates 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. The men say they regularly worked 60- to 70-hour weeks, including overtime. Schedules of seven days on, one day off, seven days on again were common, they say.

As the union negotiated its first contract with Apollo, it was bracing for major cuts, said Dominick Patrignani, president of IUE-CWA Local 81359, part of the Communications Workers of America, which represents workers at the Waterford plant. Apollo?s $3.8 billion acquisition of the company, completed in December 2006, was financed with more than $3 billion in debt, and workers figured the company would be tightening the belt.

To their surprise, the agreement reached was nearly identical to the previous contract under GE. The three-year contract, which covered two locals at the Waterford plant and workers at a Momentive facility in Ohio, was signed in October 2007. A company newsletter praised it, saying it ?locks in gains in pay and pensions? and ?retains key job security provisions.?

That didn?t last.

In December 2008, days before Christmas, more than 400 hourly workers at Momentive?s Waterford plant were called in to speak with their supervisors. One by one, workers were told that their pay would be cut, workers say. They would be assigned to new jobs, with new duties and wages.

In its written statement, Momentive said it has had to make ?difficult decisions regarding our operations in a challenging economic environment to remain competitive on a local and global basis.?

Workers were told that the pay cuts sought to bring their wages in line with the prevailing wage in the region, they said. But as several noted, others in Saratoga County don?t work with toxic and dangerous materials. Their wages should be compared to those of workers in the chemical sector, they said.

Those new wages also varied wildly, according to documents obtained through a Freedom of Information request to the National Labor Relations Board. One man, a 35-year veteran of the plant, dropped from $29.11 an hour to $17. Another, closing in on 20 years at the company, dropped from $29.11 to $19.50. A man with two years on the job kept his $29.11 wage rate. The longest-tenured worker, with more than 39 years of experience, went from $29.11 to $24. A plant services operator, hired in 1978, found himself earning $14 an hour ? a cut of almost $12 from his previous wage.

?Guys with a year or two of service ended up with a higher rate than I did,? said one longtime worker who has two children in college. Before the cuts, he earned $27.31 an hour His new hourly wage was $19.50.

The wage cuts were like ?an attack on my family,? another Momentive employee said. He has two children, too, and he regularly worked 70-hour weeks to ?give them a good opportunity to go to a good school, get a good education, without going into debt.?

If the company had proposed a 5 to 10 percent pay cut for all workers, including management and technicians, that would have been easier to swallow, several men told me. ?It was the arbitrariness that really pissed everyone off,? one said.

In fact, Momentive executives did take a 10 percent pay cut, in April 2009. But in January 2010, just as the workers? pay cuts took effect, the executives? ?temporary pay reduction? was reversed, ?as a result of the recovery in our business,? according to the company?s 2010 annual report.

As the Momentive workers saw it, the abrupt wage changes violated the contract signed in 2007, less than 18 months before the pay cuts were imposed. The local representing the affected workers filed 477 separate complaints with the National Labor Relations Board in January 2009, one for each affected worker. They asserted that Momentive ?has been engaging in unfair labor practices,? by changing wages, promotion, how people got overtime ? all things spelled out in the original contract.

The company argued asserted that negotiating wage and rate changes at the local plant level was allowed, under the terms of the national agreement. The company said the changes were needed to stay competitive and bring wages in line with the skills required.?

More than a year later, following months of investigation, the NLRB responded. The board?s regional director found that Momentive had indeed ?failed to continue in effect all the terms and conditions of the National Agreement.?? In other words, it had broken the contract. The order also found that Momentive had failed to bargain collectively with the union in violation of the law.?

The board sought an order requiring the company to restore the wage scale, rate, progression, job descriptions, and several other points. The board also wanted the company to pay interest on any back pay or other monetary awards.

The NLRB scheduled a hearing for April 5, 2010. That hearing got pushed to June, in hopes that the union and the company would reach a settlement, a common move in such cases.

But June 2010 was also when the original three-year contract ? the one Momentive had broken with the wage cuts ? was slated to expire. When Momentive executives proposed a deal, the union found itself negotiating a settlement and a new contract at the same time.

The proposed settlement was simple: the 400-plus workers whose wages were cut would get back pay covering their lost earnings. Going forward, though, they?d all be getting the new, lower wage, in their newly defined positions. The company agreed to a $2 an hour bump ? on the reduced pay. The NLRB case would be closed, ending any negotiation over job descriptions or the other issues in dispute.

Workers said the company dangled the settlement payments at the vote on the contract, held in the company firehouse at the Waterford plant. ?They had a box of envelopes, and the envelopes had statements in them with a number, how much money each worker would get in back pay, under the settlement,? one recalled.

They also warned that ?if you keep going with the NLRB action, it could take years,? several employees said.

By the time of the settlement proposal, which called for payments of more than $10,000 for many of the workers and more than $30,000 for some, many whose wages had been cut were struggling. ?They were just so desperate,? one said. ?They were just in a hole,? another added.

Still, workers in Local 81359 say they voted down the contract, preferring to move forward with the NLRB action.

But they weren?t the only local voting. The contract covers three bargaining units, including another local in the plant, representing salaried and technical workers, and workers at an Ohio branch. Although those workers didn't have their pay cut, and weren?t covered by the settlement, they had a say in whether it would be approved or rejected, because it was tied to the contract. Those locals voted to approve the proposal, and the contract was ratified. The Local 81358 workers got back pay with interest, but the wage cuts would stand.

Not everyone at Momentive took a pay cut.

Steven Delarge, a Momentive executive, received a bonus of more than $400,000 in 2010, in part for his role in ?the successful completion of collective bargaining agreements? with union workers, according to the company?s annual report. He also got a raise, bumping his salary from just under $400,000 to $450,000 in 2011. He has since left the company.

Momentive CEO Jonathan Rich received a bonus of $1.3 million for the year, The bonus was based on ?the achievement of applicable performance targets,? according to the company?s annual report, which stated, ?The Company achieved its primary environmental objective and, although it did not achieve its safety objective, the results were improved over the prior year.? Rich, who left the company in October 2010, also received severance payments of $975,000, and an additional $350,000, the reasons for which are not spelled out in company filings. His total compensation for the year was more than $6.5 million, according to company documents.

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Leon Black, shown here at the Museum of Modern Art's annual party in New York City in 2007.

The current executives, Craig Morrison and William Carter, are well-compensated, too. Morrison?s total compensation was nearly $3.5 million in 2011, Carter?s more than $2.6 million.

Apollo Chairman and CEO Leon Black is also doing well. Last year, he celebrated his 60th birthday with a blowout at his Hamptons home, featuring ?a seared foie gras station? and a $1 million performance by Elton John, according to the New York Times. Apollo Global Management declined to comment for this article.

Coming Thursday: After buyout, workers get a lesson in modern economics.

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Monday, December 24, 2012

'Commitment-phobic' adults could have mom and dad to blame

A study of the romantic history of 58 adults aged 22-28 found that those who avoid committed romantic relationships are likely a product of unresponsive or over-intrusive parenting, says Dr. Sharon Dekel, a psychologist and researcher at the Bob Shappell School of Social Work.

Dr. Dekel and her fellow researcher, Prof. Barry Farber of Columbia University, found that 22.4 percent of study participants could be categorized as avoidant when it came to their relationships, demonstrating anxiety about intimacy, reluctance to commit to or share with their partner, or a belief that their partner was clingy, for example. Overall, they reported less personal satisfaction in their relationships than participants who were determined to be secure in their relationships.

The goal of the study, published in the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, was to address the widespread research debate on avoidant attachment--whether such behavior is due to innate personality traits, such as being more of a loner, or is a delayed reaction to unmet childhood needs. Dr. Dekel and Prof. Farber found that while both secure and avoidant individuals expressed a desire for intimacy in relationships, avoidant individuals are conflicted about this need due to the complicated parent-child dynamics they experienced when young.

Taking lessons from childhood

The premise of their study, says Dr. Dekel, is based on attachment theory, which posits that during times of stress, infants seek proximity to their caregivers for emotional support. However, if the parent is unresponsive or overly intrusive, the child learns to avoid their caregiver.

The researchers believe that adult relationships reflect these earlier experiences. When infantile needs are met in childhood, that person approaches adult relationships with more security, seeking intimacy, sharing, caring, and fun, says Dr. Dekel. The researchers labelled these relationships two-adult models, in which participants equally share desires with their partner. Avoidant individuals, however, are more likely to adopt an infant-mother intimacy model.

When they enter relationships, there is an attempt to satisfy their unmet childhood needs, Dr. Dekel explains. Avoidant individuals are looking for somebody to validate them, accept them as they are, can consistently meet their needs and remain calm--including not making a fuss about anything or getting caught up in their own personal issues.

The tendency to avoid dependence on a partner is a defense mechanism rather than an avoidance of intimacy, she adds.

Hope for the commitment-phobic?

Its important to study this group further because beyond their severely diminished ability to conduct satisfying romantic relationships, they are also less happy in their lives and are more likely to suffer illnesses than their secure counterparts, notes Dr. Dekel. Psychologists need a better understanding of what these insecure individuals need, perhaps through more sophisticated neurological studies, she suggests.

There is also the question of whether or not these attachment styles are permanent. Dr. Dekel believes that there are some experiences which can help people develop more secure relationship styles.

There are hints that after experiencing a traumatic event, survivors show a greater ability and desire to form closer relationships, Dr. Dekel observed in a previous study in the Journal of Psychological Trauma, completed during her post-doctoral work with Prof. Zahava Solomon. As an expert in the field of trauma recovery and post-traumatic growth who has worked with patients in Israel and abroad to overcome traumatic events, she is beginning to study this phenomenon in greater depth.

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It has been only a few days since a mentally ill young man walked into an elementary school and killed 20 children and seven teachers.? This has ignited one of the strongest debates on gun control in recent memory.? One of the recurring memes in the current debate is the notion that Switzerland is a country with a high rate of gun ownership and a low rate of gun death? and therefore, we don?t have to restrict gun sales to reduce gun deaths.? This is pure propaganda.

I do not consider America and Switzerland to be parallel, and I do not accept most of the argument that the laws in place in Switzerland would have the same effects here.

Image of swiss army troopsFirst off, Switzerland is a much older country (most date the formation of the Swiss federation to 1291) with a very stable identity and population.? During the majority of that time (until 1848), they were a federation of small countries that banded together as a protective alliance.? At many times in their history, there has been strife between the various autonomous districts (called cantons).? They spent many years under direct foreign control by Napoleon.? It is from this history of both fighting against, and protecting, their neighbors that their military and gun traditions arise.?

Secondly, they have a weak federal government (while ours is quite strong).? For example, the districts (cantons) hold the authority to levy taxes.? They have NO FEDERAL TAX.? They have very limited federal power and any law (at any level) can be challenged in a direct referendum.? They have remained as a neutral power in Europe for over 500 years. While there is a "president," the title holds no special power and is simply rotated among the seven members of their federal council (elected by their legislature from within its own ranks).?

Third, they are defended by a citizens militia of about 200,000 troops, 95% of whom are drafted conscripts. Men are required to serve.? Women have the option of serving.? Their soldiers are trained and equipped and, after three months, SENT HOME.? They maintain all of their military gear in their homes.? Therefore, calling them an "armed public" is very different than in the US.? There is hunting for sport, but no parallel to our NRA, and very little street crime.? With their direct democracy system, the influence of political interest groups like the NRA is nearly nil.

Fourth, while they are proud of their openness and the fact that 20% of their population is "foreign" (and therefore non-voting), the wild majority of those foreigners are Italian and German (and thus speak the local languages).? Their business policies are notoriously protectionist and exclusive, and their culture is somewhat insular.? The number of people who are living in Switzerland who do NOT share a common understanding of centuries-old cultural traditions is very small.? Even with their relatively low level of "foreign influence" there has been a growing element of racism and xenophobia in Swiss politics.? The USA, on the other hand, has nearly no common traditions, and we substitute nationalism for real unity.

The United States is a young, risk-taking, war-loving country with a strong central government that spends wildly on military all over the world, and whose citizens are often living in fear and mistrust of each other.? Switzerland is an old alliance of small countries that has a weak central government, has maintained risk-averse culture and neutrality for centuries and whose citizens are largely NOT in fear of each other, but rather would maintain strength to protect themselves from external influence.

Therefore, asking an American and a Swiss to follow the same laws can be done, but you will have very different effects in terms of crime rates.?

I love the Swiss, but I view their form of democracy to be the most delicate, and carefully balanced, in the world.? Their culture is a not in the same state of constant remixing as ours is (by design), and their stability is reinforced with very tight immigration and asylum policies that nearly eliminates the influence of "outsiders" while binding their citizens together in probably the most prosperous and best educated "middle class" on Earth.

While we share the same values, our cultures are different on so many levels, that comparisons are not truly useful, especially in this context.

As other bloggers have noted, the Swiss experience of gun ownership and crime is simply not applicable to the United States.

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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Nicole Richie and Joel Madden Celebrate Second Wedding ...


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By Nicole Weintraub

Nicole Richie and husband Joel Madden celebrated their 2nd wedding anniversary, according to UsMagazine.com. The couple has two children together, daughter Harlow who is four and son Sparrow who is three years old. The two wed in December of 2010 after four years of dating one another. Richie revealed that the two of them were complete opposites when they first met, though they could not be happier now. Madden, who plays for band Good Charlotte, opened up about his family, saying, ?I feel like the luckiest man alive to have my wife [Richie] and kids?Hope everyone out there finds this kind of love.?

What are some special ways to celebrate your anniversary?

Cupid?s Advice:

Anniversaries can get monotonous and routine after several years, though here are some different ways to celebrate them:

1. Take a class: Instead of doing the routine and traditional anniversary dinner and gift exchange, take a class together. Try a kickboxing class or a baking class; just do something different that you can do together.?

2. Cook for each other: Have your partner make dinner for the two of you or make dinner for you and your partner. Instead of going out for dinner, have a nice evening in with food cooked by you.

3. Start a tradition: Do something original and start a tradition that the two of you can do every time you celebrate an anniversary. For example, write each other little love notes or start a memory box.

How would you celebrate your anniversary in a special way? Share your ideas with us in the comments below!


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By John Clark

Actor Gary Busey has closed the book on his Chapter 7 bankruptcy case, but the International Business Times reports that he still owes a significant amount of tax debts.

If Chapter 7 filers meet a very narrow range of requirements, they may be able to discharge some income taxes in bankruptcy, but tax debts often survive the bankruptcy process.

Still, as Gary Busey recently discovered, discharging other debts in bankruptcy can potentially free up funds to repay the government.

Gary Busey Discharges $50,000 in Debt in Chapter 7 Bankruptcy

Busey, who has starred in films such as ?Lethal Weapon? and ?Point Break,? filed for bankruptcy a few months ago after finding himself in a deep financial hole.

Despite a recent appearance on the reality television show, ?Celebrity Apprentice,? Busey?s income was no match for his rapidly rising level of debt.

Thanks to his Chapter 7 filing, sources say that Busey was able to discharge more than $50,000 in debt, which is a significant amount of relief for anyone, much less a man at a financial breaking point.

The cleared debt includes money owed to several banks, utility companies, and doctors, according to sources. In addition, Busey was able to keep all of his assets, which are reportedly worth roughly $26,000.

In a recent conversation with reporters, Busey cryptically pronounced that ?[w]hen you have too much, it?s a good feeling to let go.? He also told sources that his ?new hobby is just breaking even.?

Busey Still Owes Hundreds of Thousands of Dollars in Taxes

Despite Busey?s optimism, sources are quick to note that the actor, famous for his roles as high-strung action heroes, still owes about $450,000 in state and federal taxes.

Again, some unpaid income taxes may be discharged in bankruptcy, but they must be relatively old, and they cannot be the product of fraud or other misrepresentations.

The discharge of Busey?s bank and medical debt does give him some more flexibility as he attempts to pay down his massive tax debts.

And the discharge of these other debts explains why Busey is so optimistic. According to Busey?s manager, Ron Sampson, the actor believes that filing for Chapter 7 bankruptcy allowed him to find a ?new and clear path to personal and career success.?

Indeed, the 68-year-old actor does seem to have a promising new path to financial freedom, but it may take some time for him to settle his debts with the tax authorities.

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Craigslist case: Couple shot while trying to sell iPhone

By R. Stickney, NBCSanDiego.com

SAN DIEGO -- Two people were shot in San Diego late Monday after meeting a potential buyer who was responding to a Craigslist advertisement.

The shooting victims posted an ad to sell an iPhone on the popular online website and then arranged to meet a prospective buyer in a McDonald?s parking lot.

When the two parties met, the buyer got into the couple?s BMW and then pulled a gun on the sellers.

?During the potential sale of that cellphone, the suspect produced a gun and tried to rob them of the cellphone and cash,? San Diego police Lt. Paul Rorrison said.

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There was a struggle inside the vehicle between the three people and the gun fired, officials said.

The sellers, a man and a woman, each suffered non-life-threatening gunshot wounds and drove themselves to a hospital.

Investigators have not released a suspect description.

A similar crime occurred in Paradise Hills more than a year ago, but instead of suffering superficial wounds, the victim was shot and killed.

Rashon Abernathy, 18, Seandell Jones, 19, and Shaquille Jordan, 18, were convicted last month in the May 2011 death of Garrett Berki, 18, of Pacific Beach.

The three teenagers lured Berki with a Craigslist ad offering a laptop computer then robbed him of $600 and drove away. After Berki chased after the suspects, he was shot sitting behind the wheel of his car.

A jury convicted the teens of first-degree murder, robbery and shooting.

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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

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Newtown holding the first funerals for the victims

NEWTOWN, Conn. (AP) ? A grief-stricken Newtown began laying to rest the littlest victims of the school massacre, starting with two 6-year-old boys ? one of them a big New York Giants fan, the other described as a whip-smart youngster whose twin sister survived the rampage.

Family, friends and townspeople streamed to two funeral homes to say goodbye to Jack Pinto, who might be buried in wide receiver Victor Cruz's jersey, and Noah Pozner, who liked to figure out how things worked mechanically.

In front of the funeral home where relatives mourned Noah, well-wishers placed two teddy bears, a bouquet of white flowers and a single red rose at the base of an old maple tree. At Jack's service, hymns rang out from inside the funeral home.

"He was just a really lively, smart kid," said Noah's uncle Alexis Haller, of Woodinville, Wash. "He would have become a great man, I think. He would have grown up to be a great dad."

Noah's twin sister, Arielle, who was assigned to a different classroom, survived the killing frenzy by 20-year-old Adam Lanza that left 20 children and six adults dead last week at Sandy Hook Elementary School in an attack so horrifying that authorities could not when or even if the school would reopen.

At both funeral homes, people wrestled with the same questions as the rest of the country ? what steps could and should be taken to prevent anything like the massacre from happening again.

"If people want to go hunting, a single-shot rifle does the job, and that does the job to protect your home, too. If you need more than that, I don't know what to say," Ray DiStephan said outside Noah's funeral.

He added: "I don't want to see my kids go to schools that become maximum-security fortresses. That's not the world I want to live in, and that's not the world I want to raise them in."

With more funerals planned this week, the road ahead for Newtown, which had already started purging itself of Christmas decorations in a joyful season turned mournful, was clouded.

"I feel like we have to get back to normal, but I don't know if there is normal anymore," said Kim Camputo, mother of two children, 5 and 10, who attend a different school. "I'll definitely be dropping them off and picking them up myself for a while."

With Sandy Creek Elementary still designated a crime scene, State police Lt. Paul Vance said that it could be months before police turn the school back over to the district. The people of Newtown, consumed by loss, were not ready to address its future.

"We're just now getting ready to talk to our son about who was killed," said Robert Licata, the father of a student who escaped harm during the shooting. "He's not even there yet."

Classes were canceled Monday, and Newtown's other schools were to reopen Tuesday. The district made plans to send surviving Sandy Hook students to a former school building in a neighboring town but could not say when.

Newtown police Lt. George Sinko said he "would find it very difficult" for students to return to the same school where they came so close to death.

On Sunday, President Barack Obama pledged to seek change in memory of the 20 children and six adults slain Friday by a gunman packing a high-powered rifle. The president slowly recited the first names of the children.

"What choice do we have?" he said. "Are we really prepared to say that we're powerless in the face of such carnage, that the politics are too hard?"

Authorities said Sunday that Lanza was carrying an arsenal of hundreds of rounds of especially deadly ammunition, enough to kill just about every student in the school if given enough time. Lanza decided to kill himself when he heard police closing in about 10 minutes into the attack, Connecticut Gov. Dannel P. Malloy said Sunday on ABC.

Across the country Monday morning, vigilance was high. In an effort to ensure student safety and calm parents' nerves, school systems asked police departments to increase patrols and sent messages to parents outlining safety plans they said are regularly reviewed and rehearsed.

Teachers girded themselves to be strong for their students and for questions and fears they would face in the classroom.

"It's going to be a tough day," said Richard Cantlupe, an American history teacher at Westglades Middle School in Parkland, Fla. "This was like our 9/11 for schoolteachers."

Communities were on edge. In nearby Ridgefield, Conn., schools were locked down after a suspicious person was seen near a train station.

Authorities say the gunman shot his mother, Nancy Lanza, at their home and then took her car and several of her guns to the school, where he broke in and shot his victims to death, then himself. A Connecticut official said the mother ? a gun enthusiast who practiced at shooting ranges ? was found dead in her pajamas in bed, shot four times in the head with a .22-caliber rifle.

Lanza was wearing all black, with an olive utility vest, during the attack.

Investigators have offered no motive, and police have found no letters or diaries that could shed light on it. A law enforcement official, speaking on condition of anonymity, said investigators were reviewing the contents of Lanza's computer, as well as phone and credit card records. The official was not authorized to discuss details of the case.

Divorce paperwork released Monday showed that Nancy Lanza had the authority to make all decisions regarding Adam's upbringing. The divorce was finalized in September 2009, when Adam Lanza was 17.

Federal agents have concluded that Lanza visited an area shooting range, but they do not know whether he practiced shooting there.

Lanza took classes at Western Connecticut State University when he was 16, and earned a B average, said Paul Steinmetz, spokesman for the school in Danbury. He said Monday that Lanza took his last class in the summer of 2009.

Lanza is believed to have used a Bushmaster AR-15 rifle in the school attack, a civilian version of the military's M-16 and a model commonly seen at marksmanship competitions. It's similar to the weapon used in a recent shopping mall shooting in Oregon.

Versions of the AR-15 were outlawed in the U.S. under the 1994 assault weapons ban. That law expired in 2004, and Congress, in a nod to the political clout of the gun-rights lobby, did not renew it.

In some of the first regulatory proposals to rise out of the Newtown shooting, Democratic lawmakers and independent Sen. Joe Lieberman said Sunday that military-style assault weapons should be banned and that a national commission should be established to examine mass shootings.

"Assault weapons were developed for the U.S. military, not commercial gun manufacturers," said Lieberman, of Connecticut, who is retiring next month. "This is a moment to start a very serious national conversation about violence in our society, particularly about these acts of mass violence."

Gun rights activists remained largely quiet, all but one declining to appear on the Sunday talk shows. In an interview on "Fox News Sunday," Rep. Louie Gohmert, a Texas Republican, defended the sale of assault weapons and said that the principal at Sandy Hook, who authorities say died trying to overpower the shooter, should herself have been armed.

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Contributing to this report were Associated Press writers John Christoffersen, Ben Feller, Adam Geller, Jim Kuhnhenn and Michael Melia in Newtown; David Collins in Hartford, Conn.; Brian Skoloff in Phoenix; and Anne Flaherty in Washington.

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Must See HDTV (December 17th - 23rd)

Must See HDTV December 17th  23rd

Nearly every show still on is preparing for a winter or season break, but there's still plenty of football to watch including the season finale of Monday Night Football... on a Saturday. Look below for the highlights this week, followed after the break by our weekly listing of what to look out for in TV, Blu-ray and videogames.

The League
Just as our fantasy football seasons are coming to an end, so is this season of FX's comedy series. Whether or not this year's season finale lives up to last year's probably depends on how much Rafi plays into it, but we'll be watching The League to see who wins the Shiva all the same.
(December 20th, FX, 10:30 & 11PM)

49ers/Seahawks Sunday Night Football
Wait, is this an exciting late season game in the NFC West? Apparently so, since young QBs Colin Kaepernick and Russell Wilson have shown this season that they're more than deserving of the "must-see" tag. After beating the Patriots and destroying the Buffalo Bills they come head to head, it should be an excellent matchup to watch while wrapping gifts Sunday night.
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Monday, December 17, 2012

Top 9 Causes Of Pre-Wedding Jitters | World of Psychology

Top 9 Causes Of Pre-Wedding Jitters This guest article from YourTango was written by?Ashley Seeger.

Are you feeling anxious about your upcoming wedding? Sick to your stomach? Having bad dreams? Does the sight of the dress fill you with dread? Feeling like you may have made a mistake saying ?yes? or proposing?

If you answered yes, you are experiencing pre-wedding jitters. This is your subconscious telling you that something is not right and you need to listen to it. It may be that you are nervous about your own ability to be a husband or wife, anxious that your fianc? can?t be the spouse you need or both.

Having wedding jitters does not mean that the marriage is doomed or that it is time to call off the wedding. But all jitters mean that an intervention is needed. Something is making you anxious and you need to understand what it is.

We all have an internal compass that guides us in our life and when we go against it, there is a reaction. At first, you feel a gentle tugging at the back of your brain; something does not feel right. You feel ?off.? If you pay attention to this feeling, the cause or causes will slowly become clear. But if you don?t pay attention, your subconscious will get louder and louder and the bad feelings begin to turn to physical symptoms ? you may have bad dreams, difficulty sleeping, stomach issues, illness or even injuries.

I have worked with many brides and grooms who have had jitters and some that have had physical symptoms of anxiety and stress about their upcoming nuptials. The work is focused on finding the cause of their ?jitters? so they can clearly see what action is needed.

I have outlined my own list of the main causes for wedding jitters. I hope it will help you to begin to understand where your anxiety comes from so that you can begin to take action and have the wedding and marriage you want.

1. The wedding day. Sometimes it is the wedding day itself that is the cause of anxiety. Having one?s entire family together for a day or weekend can cause a great deal of anxiety especially when there are divorces, step-parents, estranged family members or just one particularly difficult family member. For other brides or grooms, wedding-day stress is about being in the spotlight.

One bride I know, who was anxious about being at the center of attention, decided to get rid of the aisle at her wedding. She and her fianc? walked together into the middle of the cocktail reception and said their vows surrounded by friends and family. Your wedding does not have to be conventional ? you can set it up so that it works for you.

In all instances, I believe that getting support for your wedding day is essential. A counselor or wedding planner can help you create a plan for dealing with difficult family members and organize your day so that you feel safe and connected with your spouse.

2. Becoming a ?wife? or ?husband.? Our parent?s marriage is our blueprint for our own marriage. We learn from them how to argue, how to ask for our needs and how to negotiate power in an intimate relationship. Some of us did not get an ideal blueprint to follow; we come from broken homes, homes filled with anger, violence, shame or neglect or homes where there is little or no emotional intimacy.

Sometimes, when we become engaged the fear that we will become just like our mom or dad is overwhelming. It is important to remember that you do not have to mirror your blueprint. You can choose any type of relationship you want. But, if you do not actively choose a different way of connecting or expressing anger, you will go on autopilot and fall back on familiar behaviors.

If this sounds like what you are feeling then what you need is to gain an understanding of your past so you can clearly define your future. Get support around understanding your own blueprint so you can then decide what you want to keep and what pieces of your parent?s marriage you want to get rid of. Once you have this, you and your fianc? can openly discuss your plan, goals and dreams for the marriage.

3. What is the plan? Have you talked through the BIG items with your intended? A few of these big items include: do we want kids and when; where do we want to live; how much money do we plan to make; how will we budget; how much time will we spend with our extended families; who is staying home with the kids; how ambitious are we individually and how are we going to make room in the relationship for this ambition.

When you talk through all of these questions, a picture or plan for your marriage emerges. Many couples don?t discuss their overall plan before they get married because they either don?t know how to or because they already know there is a conflict and they don?t know how to find a resolution.

If you have not discussed the big questions with your fianc? this may be a source of your wedding jitters. There can be the illusion that these conflicts will all ?work themselves out.? I will tell you from personal as well as professional experience that they don?t. But I do know that your anxiety will be greatly relieved by beginning this conversation. Consider finding a workbook or a couples counselor who can guide you through this discussion, help you set goals for yourselves and teach you the communication skills you need to negotiate when your desires or needs differ.

4. Violence or the threat of violence. Violence is never OK. It is never, ever, ever, ever OK.?If there has been violence, threats of violence or shaming or controlling behavior in your relationship, you need to seek the support of a therapist to better understand the dynamics of the abuse and why you choose to stay.

If you are questioning the relationship because there has been abusive behavior in the past, please listen to your instincts. Slow things down and find some support. Abuse rarely only occurs once. It is a pattern of behavior that cycles through wonderful times and then abusive or controlling times. It will happen again unless there is an intervention.?

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Inhabitat's Week in Green: madder root batteries, sun-powered plane and the world's first fiber-optic solar cell

Each week our friends at Inhabitat recap the week's most interesting green developments and clean tech news for us -- it's the Week in Green.

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This week held some truly unexpected breakthroughs as scientists in China figured out a way to create brain cells from human urine, and researchers at Rice University and CUNY developed batteries that are fueled by the dye from madder roots. Over in Germany, researchers unveiled a technique that harnesses the power of lightning to break up concrete into usable building materials and scientists at MIT built a tiny, caterpillar-size robot that can transform into almost any shape.

We've been hearing a lot of bad news about the environment such as climate change throwing natural systems out of balance, but things could be looking up slightly. Last week at the Doha climate conference, 200 nations agreed to extend the Kyoto Protocol to 2020 and back in the US, a report showed that Americans installed a record-breaking 3.2 gigawatts of rooftop photovoltaic panels in 2012. And if all else fails, Harvard professor David Keith, proposes geo-engineering as a way to combat global warming with his plan to refreeze the Arctic.

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Ca-Fi Dashlinq upsizes in-car Android infotainment, arrives in January

CaFi Dashlinq upsizes incar Android infotainment, arrives in January

There may be a size war brewing among Android-based infotainment system builders. Ca-Fi thought it was sitting pretty with its 6.2-inch unit earlier this year, but we're starting to think it was rankled by similarly-sized devices like Parrot's Asteroid Smart -- that would help explain its upcoming, 7-inch Dashlinq. Along with one-upping a nemesis, the double-DIN system brings multitouch zoom to a heavily customized (if slightly creaky) Android 2.3 interface. Otherwise, we're looking at a familiar, if fairly sophisticated approach: there's a dedicated media DSP, GPS navigation, an SD card slot for local content and internet access through 3G or WiFi. Ca-Fi expects the Dashlinq to arrive in January for €499 ($657), at which point we hope there's at least a momentary truce in the battle for the car's center stack.

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Quantum Physics Can Make an Unjammable Radar

Radar has been the way to spot enemy aircraft zooming across the sky for decades, but (un)fortunately, it doesn't always work. If you've got the right tech, you can fool it. A new kind developed by researchers at the University of Rochester however, dips into quantum physics and is unjammable and infallible. More »


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Saturday, December 15, 2012

96% Chasing Ice

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The most important documentary of the year.

"Chasing Ice" is a grand adventure, a visual amazement and a powerful warning.

If you're looking for eye-popping evidence that the world's glaciers are melting, don't miss the small-scale but spectacular documentary, Chasing Ice.

The rapid disappearance of ice mountains, filmed over a period of years, is compressed through time-lapse technology into minutes and seconds. The speeded-up effect is harrowing and also, disturbingly, eerily beautiful.

The movie might have given us a bit less of Balog and a bit more of the startling sequences he produced.

Though the filmmaker's point of view on the matter seems quite clear, Orlowski does smartly acknowledge counterarguments against climate change without dwelling on them.

"Chasing Ice" is a beautiful film to watch, especially on the big screen. But the documentary's visual pleasures come with a heavy dose of guilt.

It's sobering stuff but the film's impact is somewhat diminished by Orlowski's reverential profile of Balog, who continues to crusade despite the toll his endeavours have taken on his body.

The documentary feels a little slight but the images speak for themselves ...

Is this about the hazards of global warming or the awesomeness of James Balog? Not entirely sure...

If any film can convert the climate-change sceptics, Chasing Ice would be it: here, seeing really is believing.

While more detailed scientific analysis and greater discussion of impacts would have been welcome, the film's visual rhetoric is solid.

National Geographic photographer James Balog illustrates climate change with time-lapsed records of glacial retreat.

A project of heroic, Herzogian endeavour. Mad, you might say. But probably not as mad as what the rest of us are doing about climate change: namely almost nothing.

Utterly engaging in its demonstration of the planet's shocking climate change and is thoroughly absorbing to watch.

Chasing Ice is a uniquely visual adventure with a chilling message warmed by Balog's humanity.

Still an eco-sceptic? Clap your eyes on this lot. Awe-inspiring, terrifying, transcendently beautiful, and absolutely weighted with significance for the future of the planet.

This is a well made Documentary that becomes very involving because it's just as much about Balog's journey as it is about global warming.

Makes a convincing case that the story of climate change is best told by pictures, not words.

Despite its dire message about rising carbon dioxide levels polluting the Earth, Chasing Ice is a beautiful film, with stunning visits to snowy realms with deep blue water.

Pictures, of course, say more than a thousand flowcharts or Al Gore's PowerPoint presentations. The images here are as glorious as those in any nature documentary ever made.

"Chasing Ice" is that movie that every environmentally conscious person has been waiting for, if only to show their right-wing relatives who parrot the standard oil-industry-funded line that "the science is still uncertain."

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